Practice

Golf and golfing Father's Day. Please be good with Mommy while I'm golfing. I don't get many opportunities to do things I enjoy without impacting Team Matcha Boba. So I truly appreciate the chances I get to golf and play mahjong. I wish I could get home sooner Father's Day, but Uncle Peter can't wake up earlier...unless it's for fishing. One truth I want to share with you is that there are very few things in life you cannot accomplish. You can't grow taller, but pretty much, anything else you can do...as long as it's important enough for you to do it.

It's not easy to admit or hear, but I really believe that to be an important truth. Sometimes the things that are uncomfortable to hear are the things you need to hear...I promise I will try to never say things to be mean or that don't need to be said. All I do is in hopes of making you and your life the best it can be. For now, mommy and my definitions of "best" will reign, but we understand that someday, we will have to let you figure out "best" on your own...*pray* 

So Saturday

We got to go to Saturday church today. It sure makes less stress tomorrow. I'm sorry that your performance wasn't as great as it could have been, but we know how great you are. It was really funny seeing the girl in front of us in church watching a video of you singing. Also so cute that Jasmine was looking at Team Milk Tea Boba all mass long (probably cause you're so loud...)

I owe you presents and treats. We will get you something, but you might have forgotten. The better you are the better life is for everyone involved. I can't stress that enough. Please keep getting smarter and being better behaved. You can't imagine how happy mommy and daddy are when you make us proud. I know there will always be times we'll be disappointed, but I hope they're farther and fewer between...

Happy Mommy-versary

It's been (5) years since mommy and daddy officially because Team Matcha Milk Tea. You make us Team Boba :) Are you so lucky that so many people love you. Those hulk smash hands did not fall from the sky. It's kind of cute how you wanted to go to Aunty Rain and Ong Ba and it wasn't even for snacks. You even turned down snacks when we were there. So I know you have self control. I hope you keep that discipline on important things all your life.

It's too bad you got quickly tired and opted not to see Ong Ba, but they didn't know you were coming so it's okay. We will see them all on Father's Day. I don't like you not being happy, but I also don't like you not being a good boy. I hope you'll continue to be carefree and laughing and sweet, but we're gonna need you to be a very good boy...

Trying

We really are trying to get a sibling for you. This is gonna be our third attempt at IVF. Not sure if you'll know what that means by the time you read this, but just know (although we started late), we are making an effort to expand our family. This is my half of the cost of the recent attempt.

I know you will never really be alone, but I also know it can be lonely alone as a child. You always want mommy and daddy to watch or play with you. I'm sorry that we can't always do that. I will make a conscious effort to do more of that (including watching your shows with you), but it also is important for you to learn to be independent. Just like with work, you need to be a good independent worker along with being a good team collaborator. Prayers the third time is a charm...

Why Can't You Be Happy Daddy?

I'll be happy when you listen and eat good. It's very sweet of you to ask and try to make me happy though. I wish you understood that if you did what you're supposed to do, everyone's' lives around you would be better and easier. I just saw a post about how success is how humans were programmed. Birds don't need lessons to fly. Fish don't need lessons to swim. Humans don't need lessons to be successful. You just need to follow the plan.

You also don't see fish swimming in the sky or birdies flying in the water. Sometimes the reason why you may not be successful is because you're not where you're supposed to be. Just like how a bottle of water is $0.25 at Costco, but $6.00 at the airport. Your value can change based on where you are. Just some things to think about...

Wisdom

And grit. Those are really important things to have. There's still quite a bit of milk tea here, but I threw it away anyways. It wasn't great so I don't need to consume the extra calories. It may be a little waste of money, but it's worth the sacrifice to not consume unnecessary stuff. It's the same with life. You have to know when to walk away. It might mean you lose a little, but it could save you from losing a lot more.

Grit will help you keep going when the going gets tough. I wish that it was easy to determine when it's best to walk away and when it's best to keep going. So I pray that you'll develop your own wisdom and be able to use that to make your life easier and better. Don't keep making life harder than it should be. Patience my grasshopper.

Soccer

You did good. The kids seem nice and the so do the coaches. It seems like you might be okay. Unfortunately, it did not wear you out as you were not tired when you got home. But maybe you will be the first Vietnamese soccer star? As long as you can take care of yourself, I'll be happy. You don't need to take care of me. I will try not to be a burden on you.

We don't have your first game until next weekend so you still have one more practice. Wonder how long photo day will be Saturday. I'm not golfing just for you buddy. I will try to have at least one day in the weekend for family time. Sorry that it can't be the same day every week.