Compartmentalize

Boxes 📦 in a sense. I know you’re not great at putting stuff away or where it goes, but I think it’s important that you learn to focus sometimes. Tunnel vision. Multitasking is a great skill too. Again, I think it’s going to take wisdom to know when to do what. So pray for wisdom…

I enjoy the flexibility of work, letting it blend into life, but I think I need to take a break and set some boundaries. Right now you’re swimming and I’m watching you so I’ll try not to do any work. I just need to make sure I’m putting in sufficient time and that my work is getting done. But maybe only do it when I don’t have to focus on you. I wish you the ability to be wise in how you use your time. Sorry we didn't win the lottery, so you'll have to go to So tomorrow...

Not Good

When you say you won't do it again, it means you won't do it again, but then you do it again. That's not good my son. It's also not good that your life is so blessed and yet you act so entitled. We give you everything you want pretty much, so you need to do what you're supposed to do. Which his listen, behave, and be nice...

You're good at organizing and doing things you like. What you're going to learn (and the sooner the better) is that life is a lot about doing things you don't want to do and smiling while you do it. It's better than people can't read your face. It'll get you far in life. You often ask Daddy why I'm not happy, it's because you don't behave. I need you to do that and I'll be happy, so happy!!!!

Mondays

You slept with Daddy last night. Mommy was okay with it. You woke me up to pee in the middle of the night. I'm glad it was me and not Mommy. Mommy has to go to the doctor tonight so it'll be me and you this evening. Don't give me a hard time. I'm super nice to you and your life is easy peasy lemon squeazy. It's too bad you didn't want to color this coloring page. I think it's pretty cool.

I haven't been able to work as much as I'd like outside the work hours. Even though it's not ideal, it's what I do to make sure I have more flexibility with you. Anyhow, I hope you have a good day at soccer practice today. I'm sorry it's gonna be hot. Good thing tonight is a good night to shampoo your hair. At least next time you're outside when it's hot, it'll be for swim lessons. Thanks for not falling off the bed or crying when you got up this morning. See, I know you can do it. You're not a baby :)

Practice

Golf and golfing Father's Day. Please be good with Mommy while I'm golfing. I don't get many opportunities to do things I enjoy without impacting Team Matcha Boba. So I truly appreciate the chances I get to golf and play mahjong. I wish I could get home sooner Father's Day, but Uncle Peter can't wake up earlier...unless it's for fishing. One truth I want to share with you is that there are very few things in life you cannot accomplish. You can't grow taller, but pretty much, anything else you can do...as long as it's important enough for you to do it.

It's not easy to admit or hear, but I really believe that to be an important truth. Sometimes the things that are uncomfortable to hear are the things you need to hear...I promise I will try to never say things to be mean or that don't need to be said. All I do is in hopes of making you and your life the best it can be. For now, mommy and my definitions of "best" will reign, but we understand that someday, we will have to let you figure out "best" on your own...*pray* 

So Saturday

We got to go to Saturday church today. It sure makes less stress tomorrow. I'm sorry that your performance wasn't as great as it could have been, but we know how great you are. It was really funny seeing the girl in front of us in church watching a video of you singing. Also so cute that Jasmine was looking at Team Milk Tea Boba all mass long (probably cause you're so loud...)

I owe you presents and treats. We will get you something, but you might have forgotten. The better you are the better life is for everyone involved. I can't stress that enough. Please keep getting smarter and being better behaved. You can't imagine how happy mommy and daddy are when you make us proud. I know there will always be times we'll be disappointed, but I hope they're farther and fewer between...

Happy Mommy-versary

It's been (5) years since mommy and daddy officially because Team Matcha Milk Tea. You make us Team Boba :) Are you so lucky that so many people love you. Those hulk smash hands did not fall from the sky. It's kind of cute how you wanted to go to Aunty Rain and Ong Ba and it wasn't even for snacks. You even turned down snacks when we were there. So I know you have self control. I hope you keep that discipline on important things all your life.

It's too bad you got quickly tired and opted not to see Ong Ba, but they didn't know you were coming so it's okay. We will see them all on Father's Day. I don't like you not being happy, but I also don't like you not being a good boy. I hope you'll continue to be carefree and laughing and sweet, but we're gonna need you to be a very good boy...

Trying

We really are trying to get a sibling for you. This is gonna be our third attempt at IVF. Not sure if you'll know what that means by the time you read this, but just know (although we started late), we are making an effort to expand our family. This is my half of the cost of the recent attempt.

I know you will never really be alone, but I also know it can be lonely alone as a child. You always want mommy and daddy to watch or play with you. I'm sorry that we can't always do that. I will make a conscious effort to do more of that (including watching your shows with you), but it also is important for you to learn to be independent. Just like with work, you need to be a good independent worker along with being a good team collaborator. Prayers the third time is a charm...