The Bacs

You got to spend time with some of your Bacs today. Bac Nga, Bac Minh and Bac Art. They’re all so nice to you as are most people. You’re been pretty not nice lately so you really need to rein that in. People aren’t going to put up with it and you’ll ruin future relationships.

Who’s gonna buy and cut fruit for you besides mommy? I wish you knew how lucky you are. It really is that old saying, “if only I knew what I know now, when I was younger…”

Foggy Saturday

You like fog? 🌫️ It could be scary. Not sure if that’s why my golf game sucked today too, but I’d always rather be golfing than not golfing I think. Although it was pretty bad in Santa Barbara.

Haven’t had a chance to chat with you or mom, but we did get you signed up for Phan Phamily gift exchange for Christmas. I know you don’t need anything, but it’s more for me to not feel pressure to find gifts for all your cousins even though I don’t need to. They’re good people, it’s not the money, it’s the stress and effort. Try when you can to remove stress from your life as long as it doesn’t transfer the stress to others…

Black Friday

Wonder if this will still be a thing for you when you’re old enough to understand and possibly participate in consumerism. Lesson. Keep a list of things you kind of want or need in advance so you can buy it when there’s a deal. 

We got tires for your Tesla. I got golf balls for myself. Your Bac Nga got a new deck for her “monster truck”. Good job taking the initiative on decorating the tree. Make sure you’re a “good guy” so Santa will bring you presents. 🎁 

Thanksgiving

We should learn to be thankful everyday, but in case you forgot, remember today. You have all the basic necessities and you got lots of bonuses.

I’m thankful that you’re healthy, smart, and people love you. I’m thankful that you love me the most, but I would trade that in for you to eat and sleep on your own. But I’m still thankful. 

Wild Wednesdays

Is that they call discounts for golf on Wednesdays. It’s Friday night as I’m catching up on posts, sorry. I do have a picture of crab Uncle Peter made for us. It’s too bad you can’t enjoy it cause it’s spicy…

I wonder if Grandpa will be able to eat it. I know I’m always telling you how blessed you are. I hope you learn that before you take it for granted and lose it. That’s how it is with life. Don’t lose something and then realize it was great…

My Gym Tuesdays

Sorry you didn’t get to go yesterday, but it was really your choice. So it was really important that I delayed my mini reunion until a little later…

Sometimes I wonder why we keep paying for the My Gym when you don’t always participate or listen, but you do get enough benefit so I think we have to just suck it up. We’re also gonna start spanking you so it doesn’t become abuse…consequences.

Behind Mondays

And the holiday is coming…

Thanks for being awake when I picked you up, but you should really be sleeping more. I know you can’t do a lot, but napping is just a little bit of sleep. You won’t always be able to sleep in longer in the morning so you really need to sleep earlier and take advantage of your naps…

Slower Sundays

I’m a fan of doing everything that needs to be done, sooner than later. It allows us freedom and free time. It was nice to not have to go to church at 5PM today. 

Sorry you didn’t like this church. We can try to go to church on Saturdays. That way all we have Sunday is just My Gym if mommy wants you to go or the park. Sounds like a great plan!

Super Hero Saturday

Thanks to Jason and Co. You shouldn’t be scared of superheroes, they’re there to help like you want to. Anyhow, hope you had a good time. It’s not that mommy and daddy can’t have parties like this for you, but rather that we prioritize different ways to spend money.

Once you’re more mature. If you want a party like this we can do it, but we’d rather spend it on your future and mommy likes to travel. Anyhow, in case you didn’t know…

Fri-yah

You don’t like Daddy? That’s not nice. But you’re only 3 years old so I have to remember that. Thanks for eating daddy and mommy’s cooking.

Salmon is good for you. I don’t like it either, but mommy wants us to eat it. We try to make her happy if we can. Mommy really does love us I think…

Adoration

I’m not sure if you benefit from it. I don’t think I do. Hopefully we don’t have to go in the future. You won. You beat So there. (They didn’t come)

Maybe being around God will make you closer to her. But then again, God is everywhere. If God is like mommy, she loves you so much. Anyhow, thanks for going and praying for your family. If God doesn’t let us win the lottery, hopefully she can keep everyone we know safe and healthy. 🙏 

Alone

If you keep telling mommy and daddy you don’t like us, you may get your wish and end up alone, just like in the movie. The universe has a way of working things out…

Maybe I do need to smack you, but I can’t smack your face or head or hands. Your butt doesn’t seem bother you. Gotta figure something out because this isn’t good for my health…

Terrific Tots

Not anymore. Terrible threes would be a better description. But in all seriousness, you’re a good kid overall. We just expect perfection and maybe we shouldn’t or maybe we’re looking at it wrong. 

I didn’t really take any photos today except of this bouncing ball I had fun throwing it around the house. Anyhow, you didn’t make sleeping easy tonight either, but I guess you are okay. Don’t know why mommy peels the banana wrong…

Mondays

Surprised you got up in your own today. You had a rough night. Sorry pal. Glad I was able to find your police car for you. Seems like you were looking for it for a while. 

I know there’s things we want you to improve on, but I have to remember that generally speaking, you’re a champ about most things. You didn’t whine or cry at all last night. Anyhow, you’re getting a haircut today, sorry…

Sunday

You didn’t skip My Gym or church today. You ate okay for breakfast and better at lunch. You’re napping pretty long, but I’ll wake you up soon. Mommy is away so…

Hopefully you eat dinner easily. I’ll make your favorite and let you watch TV. You think you can eat a normal yogurt? Wonder if the bananas are ripe enough for you…

Super Saturdays

There’s always so much to do on Saturdays. You did good at My Gym and jiu jitsu, but not so good eating at home or being nice at Uncle Pink’s…

You enjoyed eating in the closet. Anyhow, you really need to learn about the consequences. Good and bad. I’m glad Aunty Kim wasn’t there because you were not friendly. Cara was probably sad…You really need to do better. It’s not even a lot…

Attitude

And not good one. Today wasn’t as bad as yesterday. But you’re not being good. I learned that I have to think about the future you. Unfortunately, that means the present you may not be happy sometimes…

We’re still not happy about your eating and sleeping. Along with your listening. You can’t be mean to your parents. Sorry, bro we’re not gonna let it slide anymore. 😡 

Good Listener

You were not that today…mommy and daddy had to “la” at you today. Not good. I do think I probably need to start sleeping with you. Mommy can’t handle it.

Anyhow, I still think you’re a good cha cha. We just need to be better as parents. Team Boba can do it. We just need a little help from our MVP. Mister Vinh Person. 

Daddy’s Back

Wish I got a video of you saying “womp, womp, womp”, but this will have to do. I’m happy to be back, but I always hope that you’ll grow closer to mommy while I’m gone. She doesn’t get much time with you. 

Anyhow, we’re back to schedule. Thanks for eating and pooping today. Too bad you didn’t sleep early. We’re trying. Consequences of you not sleeping is me leaving. You need to sleep…

Ziggy’s Birthday

“FAMILY”. It’s also Veteran's Day today. Never forget that family is important. Some of them will suck and some of them will be great. You need to make sure you’re there for them because they’ll be there for you. 

This is your godbrother. Make sure you stay on good terms with each other. If we’re unable to bring you a sibling, at least you’ll have lots of cousins. Family. 🙏 

Bac Minh

You got to spend your morning with the best Aunty. We need to get you more time with Uncle Art and Bac Minh. They really want to hang with you and you can learn about “family” from them.

I hope you were nice to her and a good listener. I’m sorry you didn’t get to watch Numberblocks, but you can watch that anytime. There’s a time and place for everything. Another good life lesson Cha Cha.

Road Trip

This time to beautiful Southern California with stops in Santa Barbara, Universal City, and Orange County. Update, Santa Barbara was a bust. Which lead to a good life lesson. This golf course was my favorite because of the views. Also very expensive. But when those views were taken away due to fog, it showed the truth about the course.

It’s a $60 course next to the ocean. So in life it’s important to look at the core of something and not be distracted by the “make up”. You can put lipstick on a pig, but it’s still a pig…

Super Saturdays

We did a lot today. I know you can’t do a lot so thank you for doing as much as you did. I heard you do so good at jiu jitsu too. It’s important for you to have discipline and learn to defend yourself…

You really need to stop hitting and listening and obeying commands and instructions. When you get older and become more independent, you can make more of your own choices, but for now, let us guide you…

Up Up

That’s what daddy and his friends call playing MJ. It’s definitely a tear on the body, but it’s worth it to get some mental health release. I don’t know where your generation will run with the concept of mental health. 

I think it’s going a little far these days. But I do think it’s important. Mental health is about doing what it takes to make sure you’re going to be there for yourself and others. It’s not an excuse it’s a solution. 

Consequences

What are they? Hard to explain to a child, but basically, it’s that actions have results (consequences). Sometimes they’re good and sometimes they’re bad. People rarely consider the positive consequences. Everyone focuses on avoiding the negative ones. 

I really don’t want to waste good toys, but you really need to learn to avoid the negative ones ASAP. Once you master that, you can focus on the positive ones. Like how pooping gets you chocolate…

Roadtrip Golf

It’s too bad we haven’t found something you enjoy in car besides watching the screen. There’s so much opportunity to take day trips in California. I think you should see the zoo in Fresno and it’s only 2.5 hours away…

I’ve been making the most of these “day” work trips. I make them day trips for you and mommy. I know you appreciate it. See you when you wake up boba chop. Sorry I’ll be gone for a few days next week…

Politics

I don’t know where the world is gonna be when you finally get to read these or when you grow up. Today California voted to gerrymander our election map in response to Texas. I don’t know why we can’t have common sense solutions to these issues and why everything has to be so political.

In your short life, you’ve only seen the world at its worst. I hope that things will change for the better for your generation. Learn to get along. It’s okay to disagree, but be compassionate and empathetic. Win-win 🙏.

Picture Day

So version. I wonder how expensive they’ll be. I know they won’t be as fancy as Merryhill, but I think we take pretty good pictures of you as it is…

Anyhow, I heard we have a makeup day Friday so we can try a different outfit. I know I always remind you how blessed you are. What I hope is that you continue to be blessed throughout your life. 🙏 

Falling Back

Daylight savings. I wonder if this will help you to sleep earlier 😂. 🙏 Anyhow, it was really 9AM when you woke up, but you still slept after 10P. I dunno…We’re gonna try, but it successful, what will happen when you have to spring forward 🤔?

Look what I got to do today. It’s for family and only once a year, so it’s not so bad. Sometimes we do things because we can, not necessarily because we want to. Remember, it’s not always about you. There are others to consider…

All Saints Day

Or is it All Souls? Either way, you didn’t have to go to church today. You get to spend your morning with the best dad in the world. Kidding, just me. Anyhow, you did okay today for being away the Gym and jiu jitsu.

Sorry you didn’t get to see the cake smash, but at least you got your face painted. Please try to be better when around other kids okay? Share. Hopefully if you are blessed with a sibling you’ll be a good big brother. 🙏 🙏